I’ve always wanted to talk about this and with Mother’s Day approaching, which I consider this Day to be my Christmas, I’d like to share the story of how I became a mother.
Like all little girls, we were destined to become mothers because the first thing handed to us when we were little was a baby doll. You never think you wouldn’t be able to have a baby but you hear about someone’s sister, daughter, or niece who struggled with infertility.
I married a man who had 12 nieces and nephews so I was around children a lot. I have to tell you I just might be in the world book of records for having the most pregnancy tests sadly none of them said “positive”. Throughout this journey, I saw many doctors – one of which took me a year to get an appointment with at Yale New Haven Hospital.
I started taking fertility drugs and shots & took so many that the doctors told me if I conceived I would most like have twins or even triplets. I was absolutely sure each time I took the pregnancy test that I would see the word positive and once again that never happened.
We moved to Texas and a neighbor told me about a Doctor Who specialized in infertility and he successfully reversed a woman’s tubal ligation allowing her to conceive. I made an appointment with this doctor and he immediately told me after he completed his examination that I had endometriosis which shocked me because no other doctor had told me this in the past. Believe it or not, I was actually happy to hear this diagnosis because now that I knew what was wrong with me I hoped that I could be “fixed”.
I had 2 surgeries to remove Lesions and Scar tissue and learned that my left Fallopian tube was occluded (blocked) which meant I only ovulated every other month. To tell you that I was devastated would be an understatement because at that time most of my friends were having their first and second babies and truth be told I was extremely jealous and resentful as well as extremely depressed – I kept asking Why Me? I was ready to do anything to become pregnant – if the doctor told me in order to conceive you would have to cut off your arms and legs I would not have hesitated to do it.
I’ll never forget what my husband told me… he said: “I didn’t marry you to have babies I married you for YOU if we have a baby that would be a bonus”.
A quote that actually comforted me was this: “Whatever is beyond my control is not my concern”. As much as I did not want to give up, I had to accept the fact that I would never be pregnant.
Well God certainly does work in mysterious ways… I saw an ad in a local paper that said guaranteed pregnancy. You guessed it, I inquired and it led me to a midwife that was practicing holistic medicine and stated the endometriosis could be cured from the inside out – she even showed me a photo album of her success stories. I followed the treatment instructions for about three months and on this particular occasion, Monday, August 25, 1986, when I went to be checked to see if I have it was ovulating, I was told something that was too good to be true.
An hour prior to my appointment this midwife received a phone call from a girl who saw the same “guaranteed pregnancy” ad. She was seven months pregnant and called the midwife because she thought that maybe the midwife knew of someone who wanted to adopt her baby. Talk about being on the right place at the right time!!
Mind you, this was the 80’s and the midwife explained to me that she could not be a part of this because she would lose her nursing license, but she could give my information to her and also advised me that I would need to call an attorney and I would be responsible for all legal and medical expenses for the pregnancy
I left her office in shock and disbelief but also on cloud nine and could not wait to tell my husband this news. The very next day the phone rang and it was the Birth Mother !!!! I’m usually not at a loss for words but was too shocked that she really & truly called – What do you say to a woman who is about to make your dreams come true? We met our son’s Birth Mother a few days later – she told us she was having a girl and I went on a major shopping spree for Pink Clothes, so when she called from the hospital to tell us she gave birth to an 8 lb 10 oz Baby Boy. My husband got to tell me “I Told you so”
Fast forward to October 14, 1986 – God answered my prayers – We waited 14 years for this little boy and he was born on the 14th – coincidence ?? I think not.
We were extremely Blessed to adopt our second son two and a half years later, and we were also fortunate to meet his birth mother and be in the delivery room to witness the miracle of birth. My two walking talking miracles are now 32 and 29 and I will be forever grateful to the two women who loved their babies enough to want a better life for them.
To anyone reading this that can relate to my story, I encourage you not to give up. I hope your miracle baby is out there somewhere.
I received many Coffee Mugs for Mother’s Day throughout the years, I treasured each one. I am featuring a few that I have in my Good Buys All the Time Amazon Store
I am so very honored to have the Title of “Mother” especially when I never thought I’d hear the word “Mom” it’s the Best Job I’ve Ever Had.
Good Buys All the Time is Wishing all the Mothers, Single Moms, Stepmothers and Grandmothers A Happy Mother’s Day
This cute black cold weather snow set includes snow bibs and a ski jacket with red fleece lining and 3 front pockets. It will keep your little one toasty and warm while looking great at the same time
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